Giving Away

Giving Away

This is the point in which I will ask who will be giving one partner to be married to the other today if anyone. This will happen in the beginning of the ceremony before the aisle escort is asked to take their seat but after being greeted at the end of the aisle by the groom.


I cant stress enough that this part is 100% optional. A lot of brides are not into the whole "giving away" thing and that is absolutely ok. 


The traditional giving away of the bride involves the father walking the bride down the aisle and giving her to the groom. To represent the modern version of the tradition the groom could thank the father as he reaches the alter, offering a handshake, high five or a hug and even verbally acknowledging him.


Some dads aren’t too fussed on talking in front of the crown or feel they will be too emotional to do so, in this case is certainly acceptable to walk the bride down and take your seat without being asked.


If desired, the bride can be given away. 

The bride may want to walk alone.

The bride may want to walk with her father, mother, both or another escort eg brother, step-dad.

If there are two brides or two grooms they may choose to walk in together.


Usually the person giving the bride away will be asked to answer a question along the following lines-

I now ask who bring (Partner one) here to be married to (Partner two) today?

Response- I do

Are you willing now and always to nurture this marriage with your continued love and support?

Response- I will.


An alternative option here is a family blessing/acknowledgement, where the parents of both the bride and groom are asked to confirm their love and support of the marriage. 


All of the guests could give the couple away, in a question and response with the guests the celebrant could ask

“Family and friends, will you support and love the marriage being solemnised here today?”

The guests respond “We will!”.


As it is a more traditional element, you may be wearing a veil over your face at this point, this is something you will need to consider in regards to who will lift it and when. 


Often the aisle escort will lift this following the giving away, but you may prefer to have your partner to lift it instead.