Wedding Celebrant & MC
Personal Vows How To
To write your own vows or not to write your own vows, ahh such a loaded question. If you don't want to do personal vows, it doesn't mean you love your partner any less, you just show it in a different way. Sometimes couples are so afraid of talking in front of all of their friends and family that they may miss the opportunity to say what's in their heart on their most important day.
On the fence?
Here's my advice if you're not keen on public speaking.
Australia has mandatory spoken word vows, as a minimum you absolutely have to speak at some stage, so if you feel you could manage a few extra lines, it could just make the world of difference for your partner.
If you don't want to do personal vows don't force it, write a letter instead. I'm sure your partner would prefer you put into writing how you feel, then they can read in the morning of your special day rather than say vows that they know are the first result on Google 😂
As a celebrant I always suggest a personal story for every ceremony, for which one of my questions is "what are 5 things you like/love about your partner" if you feel like you cant say how you feel then let me do it! Keep your responses a secret and they'll be hearing for the first time at the ceremony just like vows.
You don't have to remember vows off the top of your head, if you send them to me I will print them out and hand to you at vow time!
Don't be afraid to ask for help! If you need help your celebrant should always be able to offer advice and examples 😁
Ok so your doing them and need advice on how to write them? I've got you covered there too!
Vows are the one part of the ceremony where couples usually require the greatest assistance. Every couple wants to say the perfect words to each other so if you are feeling the pressure, don't worry you're not alone.
Vows can be presented in the following ways:
• Recited after the celebrant (I advise this for mandatory vows only)
• Read off a palm card (Preferred when including personal vows)
• Memorised by the couple (Not preferred for my over- planned, over-prepared brain, but of course still an option)
The most important thing is to talk it over with your partner, how do you want them to flow? what style? how long?
Vows can be a few different styles too, do you want to simply express how you feel, do you want to make promises or do you want to make "vows" as such.
Expressing your feelings?
Here are a few pointers to get you started
Making "Promises"- Use these to get you started
Making "Vows"- Try these for size
Above all, make sure your vows are sincere and remember the following:
This is a public declaration of your commitment, so others will be listening! Try not to talk for too long! Quality not quantity. Don’t stray from your personality – serious, fun, light-hearted – stay true to yourself. Whatever you decide in the end it just needs to be you.
Good luck and happy writing :)