Of course marriage isn't always just about 2 people, sometimes there are kids involved. Often when there are step children involved in a marriage, the step parent may like to say some "vows" to their step children. Be prepared though, this kind of addition in a ceremony can sometimes be even harder and more emotional than the vows to your partner! Kids bring out the emotions in all of us, its extremely emotional but very touching too. Some examples of step parent vows are below-
I was not there on the day you took your first breath or when you took your first steps. It was never my destiny. What was my destiny was when I fell in love with your parent. I may not have been there in the beginning, but I will always be there for you in the next firsts in your life. I will be there when you lose your first tooth and when you first start school. I’ll be there on your homecoming and on the day when you promise the person you love your life. I know you didn’t choose me, but I chose you and you may never understand that now, but one day you will. When I met your parent, It wasn’t solely them who I wanted in my life. I also wanted you to be an integral part of my life.
Soon, it will come. The day of our wedding and the moment I met your parent at the altar, I am not only making a vow to them, but I’m also making a promise to you. It’s not just my day or your parents. It’s yours too. When that day comes, these will be my vows to you.
I Vow to:
I will attend every important event. Support your decisions, help you with homework, and pack your lunches all when I need to. I will be there for you when you need me and never influence you negatively.
I will always choose to stay in rather than go out and to care for you when you’re ill. It’s not that I’m obligated to, but I know you would need your parent and me there on sick days/special nights/ holidays. I will step up and be the person you need. It is mine, and your parents job never to see you struggle.
Your well-being is number one. I vow to love and care for you not because I feel like I have to but because I have developed a special bond with you. We easily became best friends, and I’m so thankful for that. Our relationship is incredibly special to me and always will be. I will kiss your owies and make you sandwiches. I will watch frozen with you and buy you puzzles just because I know how much you love them.
You loved them first, and I will never or have never tried to break that bond. I will love your parent through everything. I will never fight with them in front of you, degrade them, or be a bad example in front of you. You will see love in our relationship, and we will be an example to you.
In my eyes, you are my first child. You were the first child that became a responsibility to me, to teach, to love and care for. I will never treat you different than the own children I bear. I will love you and care for you the same as them. I will never make you feel less loved or less important.
I will be an addition, never a replacement. It’s not easy for either parent to let another person significantly enter their child’s life. You are the most important person in their lives, and I thank them for trusting me to be a part of yours.